The Hypnosis of Relationships
Why you have to be hypnotized to get over them
As human beings, we are all social. We crave connection, conversation, and intimacy. So it should come as no surprise that when a relationship is in danger, we are deeply impacted. Whether romantic or platonic, our emotions are attached to these relationships. Additionally, the experiences we have when we are young impact the relationships we have as adults. Over time, these subconscious events can develop into unhelpful behaviours and patterns that deeply affect our current relationships.
If you are reading this chances are experienced the happy feelings of falling in love. Finding that special someone and planning your life with one another. We are happy to tell all our friends and family to the point of neglecting them for our new found love interest. Being in love is wonderful and during this time we experience all the emotions of infatuation,happiness, excitement and nervousness, sexual attraction and lust,and although, it may not seem like it, being in love is a somewhat scientific process.
Falling in love involves a lot of hormones, which can supercharge your feelings and make them wildly fluctuate. The initial happy feelings of being in love is stimulated by 3 chemicals in the brain: noradrenaline that stimulates adrenaline production causing that racing heart and sweaty palms; dopamine, the feel-good chemical; and phenylethylamine that is released when we’re near our crush, giving us butterflies in our tummies
Being in love is all very real, but also are the feelings of heartbreak when the relationship ends. The feelings of shock, betrayal, sadness, grief, and lonlines also wreak havoc on the body and mind. Before we knew the science we knew the feeling, and used words associated with physical pain — hurt, pain, ache — are used describe the pain of a relationship breakup. Now we know why.
The emotional pain of a breakup and physical pain have something in common — they both activate the same part of the brain. Brain scans of people recently out of a relationship have revealed that social pain (the emotional pain from a breakup or rejection) and physical pain share the same neural pathways.
In one study, 40 people who had recently been through an unwanted breakup had their brains scanned while they looked at pictures of their exes and thought about the breakup. As they stared at the photos, the part of the brain associated with physical pain lit up.
The human brain loves love. Being in love takes the lid off the happy hormones, dopamine and oxytocin, and the brain bathes in the bliss. But when the one you love leaves, the supply of feel good hormones takes a dive and the brain releases stress hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine.
In small doses, stress hormones are heroic, ensuring we respond quickly and effectively to threat. However in times of long-term distress such as a broken heart, the stress hormones accumulate and cause trouble.
When we are in healthy, positive relationships, we are much more likely to be fulfilled in other aspects of our life. An unhappy relationship can wreak havoc on your happiness, and trickle into many other aspects of your life too. This pain can last years from some and lead others to unhealthy habits, addictions, behaviors. Some people may make the mistake of rushing into another relationship to fast in order not to feel lonely without ever getting over their past relationship and unfairly damage that current relationship with all the hurts and worries of the last one. These emotions just leave us with the wish we could all just erase this person or these memories out of our heads. According to one study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology, it takes around 11 weeks before we start feeling better after a relationship ends. A separate study put that figure at closer to 18 months, following the end of a marriage.
We’ve all heard the often-repeated phrase, ‘time heals all’, but could hypnotherapy help heal a broken heart? Or could hypnosis techniques help you to recognise why you’re really struggling to get over your ex, and help you to feel ready to move on more quickly?
Hypnptherapy is not magic and it may not allow us to forget or erase anything howerver, it has been proven that hypnotherapy is an effective method of change. It can assist us in understanding why we act and feel the way we do. Additionally, hypnotherapy for relationships can help us develop new ways of thinking, and provide us with the tools needed to see things from our partner’s perspective.
Relationship hypnotherapy can help with:
Conflict management — It is perfectly natural and healthy for relationships to have conflict. After all, we cannot always agree with one another. However, when conflict and anger become a constant presence in relationships without resolution, it may be time to take a step back and reevaluate things. Relationship hypnotherapy is designed to help get to the root cause of your conflict, and helps you to recognise and change the way you communicate for positive conflict resolution. It can also help you learn to manage and cope with stressful emotions more easily.
Moving past toxic relationships — From a friend who makes you feel bad to an abusive significant other, a toxic relationship is any relationship that makes you feel bad and has a damaging impact on you. Hypnotherapy can help you build the confidence and self-esteem you need to reconnect with yourself to move beyond your toxic relationships. Commonly used to manage anxiety, hypnotherapy can also provide you with an inner anchor and help you to learn how to manage difficult memoires that may be impacting your current relationships.
Moving past a break-up — Break-ups can be very painful and sad. They are a great loss, and the pain can linger long after the relationship ends. While some people can move on quickly, others get caught in the cycle of loss and grief. This is often caused by an unconscious denial that the relationship has ended. During this time, you may become trapped by feelings of negativity. Hypnotherapy can help you reevaluate negative behaviours and thoughts, turning them into a more positive perspective.
Dating confidence — Whether you have been single for some time or are just coming out of a relationship, dating can prove to be and exciting and stressful experience. Opening yourself to be vulnerable and meet new people can be difficult. Relationship hypnotherapy can help you develop a stronger self of self-worth and confidence.
As one hypnotherapist explains, You are the author of your story, no one else. By understanding this fact you become the master of your life. Create a happy ending for yourself. Now you are single you are free to find a more suitable partner. You have the opportunity to feel better and experience the happiness you have been looking for. And after all this upheaval, you will realise that problems are not problems. It’s your reaction to the problem that is the problem. Problems are just opportunities for new things and for new experiences and many times, it’s for the better.”
